Couples & Relationship Counseling

All relationships go through periods of ups and downs, but sometimes couples find themselves unable to get out of a downtime and back to feeling connected and happy.

I work with couples who are wanting to build resiliency, intimacy and connection into their relationship as well as couples struggling with:

• Conflict
• Resentment
• Betrayal
• Communication
• Feeling ignored or unheard
• Questioning whether to stay together or separate

We all have a unique way of seeing and experiencing life. In our relationships with others these differences can lead to disagreements and conflict, which in turn can lead to a breakdown in communication and connection. The truth is conflict is a healthy natural part of being in relationship and it is how you and your partner handle, recover and repair from conflict that will help you stay connected and close. Couples counseling can help you get there, allowing you to build intimacy, trust and friendship, and a relationship where you know your partner has “has your back.”

Are you wanting to:

• Increase your communication skills and/or to decrease conflict
• Strengthen your intimacy, trust and friendship
• Find help and tools to navigate the “tough stuff” life throws at you

Helping you feel good about, helping you feel connected to and learning how to maintain your connection to your romantic partner or spouse so that your relationship becomes a safe and secure haven in your life is integral in my work with you. My approach to working with couples is a combination of two researched-based approaches; Emotionally Focused Therapy and The Gottman Method and Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy.

Relationships are often viewed as the cornerstone of a successful life

They play a key role in our lives, our happiness and our struggles. To keep your relationship strong it is important to attend to and nurture your partnership.

As time passes and we mature through our lifespan, our lives tend to get busier, our families grow and our work often becomes more demanding. We may find ourselves turning more of our focus and energy towards our children, our job, or caring for our family than in maintaining a healthy partnership with our significant other. But in doing so we may be putting our partner or spouse on the back burner where we risk losing our connection to them through unintended neglect. Neglect can lead to disconnection; disconnection can lead to loss of intimacy. Real communication suffers and eventually the door can open to extremes of conflict, resentment and at times a lonely silence.

By not putting your primary relationship, your partner or spouse, at the top of caring for your family you may risk losing your family. Just as a garden grows and thrives when attended to and fertilized, our relationships need our love and attention to maintain closeness and connection.

I am seeing clients online only at this time. If you have questions I can be reached at alison@alisonwithey.com.